WOMEN

5 THINGS YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST DO TO SATISFY A WOMAN IN BED

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emember the old joke: “how do you make a woman have an orgasm?”  Answer:  “who cares?”  Well it’s just that:  a joke.  If you value having sex, you’d better know how to make a woman have an orgasm, otherwise you’ll be fondling your own foreskin for the rest of your life.  If you can’t satisfy a woman in bed, it’s only a matter of time before you overhear her laughing about your sexual performance with her friends and she starts looking elsewhere for satisfaction.

 

Sexually satisfying a woman starts well before you get near the bedroom.  In order to satisfy a woman, you need to begin by romancing and seducing her hours, days, or perhaps even weeks prior to sex.  You can’t just grab her from the kitchen, order her on to the bed, climb on top of her and shout ‘Brace yourself’ and expect her to be satisfied.  You need to think Don Juan; think romance; think seduction.  Sure it requires extra effort on your part, but the extra effort will supply you with awesome sexual experiences.  When you satisfy a woman in the bedroom, she is much more affectionate, loyal, and loving outside of the bedroom.  A satisfied woman makes a satisfied man.  Put these five key things to work for you and you’ll both be much more satisfied in and out of the bedroom.  Hint:  ‘make her give you a blow job’ is not one of them.

 

 

 

1. Anticipation

Ellen Kreidman, in her book Light Her Fire, talks about the importance of anticipation in romancing or seducing a woman.  There’s something about anticipation that drives a woman wild.  They love this sort of teasing. 

 

Try this.  Next time your woman comes home from work, leave a note on the door.  In the note, tell her you’ve been thinking of her all day.  Tell her that you think she is the sexiest and most beautiful woman in the world.  Tell her that you appreciate how hard she works, and that tonight is all about her just relaxing.  Tell her a surprise is waiting for her upstairs.  (By the way, if you have kids, drop them off at your parent’s house before she gets home.  Or if you’ve been letting your college buddy sleep on your couch because his wife kicked him out of his house last month, kick him out before your wife comes home.)

 

When she walks through the front door after reading the note, she hears soft music playing.  She sees candlelight throughout the clean house.  Yes, I snuck in ‘clean house’ on you.  As crazy as it sounds to men, a clean house can actually prepares a woman for romance.  Most women attach their self-esteem to how they take care of their home.  You’ve also just relieved much of her stress and given her reason to relax.  She no longer has to worry about cleaning the house later, in addition to all of the other things on her plate.

 

She walks further in to the house and smells the perfumed aroma from the candles.  (Notice how you’re appealing to all of her senses:  kinetically from reading the note; visually from seeing the candles and the clean house; aromatically from smelling the candles).  She makes her way to the bedroom where she finds you sitting in a chair reading.  Nearby, there’s a small table with two place settings.  You greet her with a warm hug and gentle kiss, and welcome her home.  You are wearing nice clothes, are freshly shaved, have your hair combed, and are wearing her favorite cologne.  The table is elegantly displayed with a white table cloth, nice dishes, and a bottle of wine.  You lift up the lids on the plates to reveal her favorite meal.  She’s wondering what in the world has come over you.  You should stand close to her at this point because she’s liable to faint.  After all, prior to tonight, your idea of romance was taking her deer hunting on your honeymoon.

 

 

 

You invite her to sit down by pulling out her chair and helping her in to her seat.  You spend the next hour or so reminiscing about the day you met, the trips you shared, some of your memorably love-making experiences, and how you love her more today than the day you met.    

 

After dinner, you walk her in to the bathroom where she sees a hot bubble bath, surrounded by candles.  There is a glass of wine, and a romantic novel sitting next to the tub, along with a fluffy towel and her bath robe.  Soft music is playing in the background.

 

She may try to get you to join her in the tub, but you politely refuse.  You tell her you want her to just relax, and that you have some reading to do.  You give the impression that you are not interested in sex, you just want her to have some time relaxing by herself.  While she is in the bath, you refill her wine.  You tell her that after her bath, you have another surprise for her.  While she is relaxing in her hot bath, sipping her wine, she’ll be wondering what the surprise could possibly be.

 

While she is in the tub, you clean up all of the dishes and the kitchen.  Then you recline in the bedroom, reading a book while she soaks in the tub.

 

When she gets out of the tub, you tell her to go lay down on her stomach on the bed.  The bedroom is dim with candlelight and romantic music is playing in the background.  You very slowly and gently start massaging her.  You start with her feet and you gradually work your way up her body.  You resist the temptation to touch her sexually at this point, so you carefully avoid her butt and her breasts.  Before long, after several more minutes of massing and caressing her, she will likely try and rip your clothes off to have you.  Congratulations, you’re well on your way to completely satisfying your woman.

 

Sure, this is a lot of trouble to go through for a night of sex.  But it’s not just one night.  You’ll be building an intimacy with her that will translate in to many nights of incredible sex.  She’ll be talking about this night for days to come.  She’ll be thinking about it and telling all of her friends about it.  She’ll be the envy of every woman she knows.  How do you think that’s going to make her feel.

 

 

 

Here’s another way to look at this from a man’s perspective.  Most of us have got where we are by hard work.  We believe that if we work hard, and smart, we will enjoy success.  We also believe hard work builds character.  We preach about it to our sons.  We also believe that when we exercise, there’s no gain without some pain.  We believe in order to show muscular gains, we need to put in the hard work necessary to make those gains.

 

It’s the same thing with sex.  If we don’t put in the work, we don’t get the payoff.  In order to get great sexual gains in our lives, you need to work hard at it.  It’s not always going to be fun to do that work, but the payoff is going to be a great sexual life. 

 

This is just one approach to building anticipation in the mind of your woman.  You can get the same result many different ways.  Use your imagination. 

 

2. Help her relax

Women need to relax in order to achieve complete sexual gratification.  Therefore, in order to satisfy her, you need to help her achieve a heighten state of relaxation.  You can do this several ways.  We’ve outlined one very specific way to get her to relax in step one.  There are many other ways.

 

Here are a few other suggestions.  First, don’t hurry or rush her.  Be gentle with her, and take your time.  Next, stoke her hair and her face.  Whisper in her ears.  Tell her to just lie back and imager herself on a private beach, lying in the sun completely relaxed.  Almost as if you are hypnotizing her.  Continuing to gently stroke her and talk to her in a soothing voice.  Gradually, even the most tense woman will find herself completely relaxed and at your mercy.

 

3. Caress her entire body, not just the obvious places

A lot of guys have one move:  hop in the saddle and start riding.  In some situations, that might work.  For example, if you hire a prostitute and the clock is running!  It’s not going to work with your wife or your lover.  Sure, she might play along for awhile.  She might even enjoy some fast, rough sex once in awhile.  But the vast majority of the time, she’s going to need to have her engine warmed up before jam on the gas to try and break the world speed record.

 

You warm her up by gently caressing her.  Don’t simply focus on the obvious places, but instead focus on her shoulders, her stomach, her legs, her feet, and so on.  Lightly caress her with your hands, your lips, and your tongue.

 

After you’ve caressed her entire body, feel free to go after her breasts for example.  But you’re not going to simply devour them with your mouth.  Tease her a little.  Create some…you guessed it…anticipation.  For example, you might want to take your tongue, and very lightly circle her nipples in large circles, gradually getting closer and closer to her nipples, but never touching them.  Do this to both nipples.  At the same time, gently caress her abdomen and the inside of her legs, but never touch her package.

 

As she gets more and more turned on, gradually turn up the heat by finally touching her nipples and her package, very lightly and sporadically at first, then gradually get a little more direct with more and more pressure.  She’s now ready for you.

 

 

 

4. Take her

In spite of all the talk you hear about women wanting to be in control in today’s world, and in spite of how you might hear women talk outside the bedroom, the truth is that most women want to be dominated by a real man in the bedroom.  By ‘dominate’, I’m not talking about some sort of S&M scenario.  Instead, I’m talking about taking control of the situation with a manly confidence. 

 

Women don’t want a tentative man in their bedroom.  They don’t want someone who is going to ask for permission every time they do something.  They don’t want to be constantly asked how something feels.  Instead, they want someone to show them the way to the promised land.

 

You can do this by ‘taking her’ in a confident manner.  Let her feel your strength and power.  While you are doing her, grab her hair, and pull it.  Lift her up in to your arms.  Take her hands, stretch her arms out above her head, and hold them there while you take her.  Gracefully, but with your manly strength and confidence, move her in to other positions.  The idea is not to be too rough, but to let her feel your power and your confidence through your actions. 

 

If you properly executed all of these steps, she will surrender herself to you and enjoy her ecstasy.  You’ve done good.  Now there is only one thing left to do.  No, it’s not put on your clothes and leave. 

 

5. Lay with her after sex

I know.  Somewhere deep in a man’s DNA, we’ve been programmed to get our rocks off then roll over and go to sleep, go make a sandwich, get another beer, turn on the TV, or put on our clothes and leave.  A wise man fights his primal urges and does none of those things.  A wise man – now brace yourself for this – lays with his woman after sex.  I know, you’re thinking ‘no, anything but that!’  But you’ve got to be strong my friend and follow through.  Otherwise, everything you’ve done up to this point will be forgotten by your woman.  All she’ll remember is feeling used and abused after making love with you.  She won’t remember how good you made her feel in the moment.  She’ll remember only that you didn’t completely satisfy her.  And that mistake may mean that’s the last time you’ll get inside her door.

 

Laying with your woman after sex validates her as a lover.  It makes her feel like giving sex to a sweaty, hairy lug like you was the right move.  It makes her feel close to you.  It makes your chances of getting more sex from her skyrocket.

 

Conversely, if you immediately jump up after sex and leave, your woman is likely to feel like she’s been used.  She may think that she wasn’t satisfying as a lover.  She won’t feel close to you at all, and your chances of getting inside that gorgeous little body have just plummeted like a lead balloon.

 

In short, you blew it.  We don’t need to debate whether or not a real man acts contrary to his urges and lays with his women after sex.  The evidence is in:  if you lay with your woman after sex, you get more sex.  End of discussion.  If your definition of a real man is a man who never gets laid and masturbates himself to sleep alone each night, then more power to you.  You should probably not be reading Real Man Magazine, but rather one of the metro-sexual magazines.  But one of my definitions of a real man is a man who gets laid regularly, in all sorts of stimulating ways, by a woman who would go to hell and back for him, simply because he knows how to please her.

 

Obviously, there are exceptions to every rule.  Some women want to be in control, even in the bedroom.  Some women want a wimpy man in the sack.  Some women don’t like to be caressed.  Some women don’t want you to lay with them after sex.  However, these are the exceptions, and not the rule.  For the vast majority of women, if you follow this plan, your chances of satisfying your woman and getting laid more often have just increased ten-fold.  Now enjoy your new found manhood and go forth and spread your seed. ©2008 www.realmanmag.com